Hi, I’m back… at last 🙂 Sorry for going M.I.A on you again but I’ve been on a little impromptu holiday for the last 10 days, just taking some time off from writing, blogging and basically just spending some time with my family. As you know I’ve been in Slovenia (the home country) for almost two months and last week was the time to start getting ready for our trip back home to France so I decided to really make it a quality week and not worry (so much) about work. The bf and I also took a mini holiday just the two of us but instead of just telling you about all the fun stuff we did, I wanted to talk about something that’s been on my mind for quite some time now: the importance of taking that grownups only time for yourselves.
Our mini getaway was great! We left Lara with her grandparents for the long weekend and went to our place at the seaside. I have to be honest with you, it’s the first time we’ve been alone, alone for three and a half whole days since the little one was born. We just hung out and did things we did when we were just a couple dating, went out to dinner, drinks, spontaneously decided to see a movie and read books. I missed Lara the whole time but I have to be honest, that our little weekend away reminded me of how important it is to get that couple time in after you have a baby. I know, I know you’re all thinking: “Umm well, duhhh!” but truthfully it’s so easy to get caught up in the everyday routine of things: your work, your partner’s work, family, cooking & cleaning, doctor’s appointments, that you can easily let go/forget of that special couple time that should be booked for just the two of you. But it’s so important. I can’t stress that enough. And if you’re like me and have what I like to call “helicopter mommy separation anxiety” and basically think that if you leave your little one with a babysitter or a grandparent for an evening (or a long weekend) the world will end and you’re a terrible mother, I must inform you that as tough as it may seem, it just needs to be done.
So, I say take that couples only vacation or go away for a weekend just the two of you. Have regular date nights (and stick to them!) and basically just make the time. It goes a long, long way and ultimately it’s good for your little ones as well. As crazy as that may seem when you’re kissing those little pink cheeks goodbye for a little bit.
Do you take grownups only holidays? Or have regular date nights? How do you fit it in your couple time?
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